Increase Your Home Value

13 May

Did you notice the “house” imagery in this weekend’s readings? What a great analogy! Our houses set us apart from others. Our houses are our responsibility to maintain, and we all strive to create a home of which we can be proud. Our homes are also places of welcome and service.

The same is true with our marriages, which are the heart of our homes. By definition, marriage “sets us apart,” as we choose to belong exclusively to our spouse. We are responsible for maintaining this relationship much like we have to maintain our house. Marriages are supposed to be a light to others, too! A joyful marriage is meant to fill us up so that we can be of service to others.

To be a light as a couple, consider:

  • Mentoring the engaged
  • Babysit for friends, so they can attend a marriage enrichment or go on a date
  • Support a marriage ministry by volunteering as a couple
  • Start a marriage ministry in your parish
  • For other ideas, go to www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

Mercy Works in Marriage

28 Apr

Easter is the season of mercy, but have you ever thought, “How do the works of mercy apply to family life?” God’s beautiful plan allows for the works of mercy to be practiced daily in family life.

Spiritual Works of Mercy

  • Bear wrongs patiently: Assume that your husband did not intend to make that insensitive comment.
  • Pray for the living and the dead: During meal prayer, offer prayer for living and deceased relatives.
  • Admonish the sinner: Discipline children when they disrespect you.
  • Counsel the doubtful Encourage a child who is questioning Faith:
  • Instruct the ignorant: Give a book to an uninformed relative on a matter of Faith.
  • Forgive offenses: Forgive your spouse instead of holding a grudge.
  • Comfort the afflicted: Spend time listening to a struggling child or relative.

For other ways to joyfully witness to mercy, go to www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

Let Easter impact your marriage!

13 Apr

After the sacrifice of Lent and the gloom of Holy Week, we can sometimes arrive at Easter like someone who has just finished a dreaded chore. We can think, “Hooray, we made it!”  Now, pass the jelly beans. However, if this is our approach, the Resurrection of Jesus becomes no more than a happy ending to a scary story, and we miss the gift it can be for our marriages.

The first message of the Resurrection is “Don’t be afraid!” This phrase is proclaimed to all who approach the empty tomb, and it is proclaimed to us as married people as well. We should not be afraid:

  • … of serious illness, financial, or relationship problems. He has conquered even death, so He can bring good out of any evil we face.
  • … of facing our own or our spouse’s sin. He loved His disciples even after they abandoned Him; He can help us love each other with that same love.

To unleash Easter Joy into your marriage, visit www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com.

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

Holy Week for Marriage

6 Apr

Praise, temptation to despair, indignant questioning from one who does not understand His mission, rejection, and eventually death . . .

While all of these descriptions certainly apply to Our Lord’s experience during Holy Week, they also apply to the lived experience of every married couple.

St. John Paul II said, “Married couples are a permanent reminder to the Church of what happened on the Cross.” Jesus called Himself the Bridegroom, and His Bride was the Church, so we can imitate Christ in our marriages when we:

  • Accept praise from others with humility and thanksgiving to God.
  • Allow grace to strengthen our hope when we are tempted to despair over financial situations or the choices our children make.
  • Choose to courageously witness to the beauty of marriage even though friends or extended family may not understand our vocation.
  • Forgive generously when we are hurt.
  • Lay down our lives, in ways big and small, for our spouse.

For other ways to joyfully witness your marriage, go to www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

 

“What are you waiting for, Jesus?”

28 Mar

Crosses for married couples come in all different shapes and sizes. Whether in the form of death, illness, financial troubles or conflict, the “bad times” can really test our resolve!

In this week’s Gospel, Jesus waited two days before setting out to help His dying friend Lazarus, and the delay resulted in His friend’s death. In our suffering, we can often feel like Jesus is taking forever to help, and we fear He may come too late.

We can keep two important things in mind in these situations. First, “Jesus wept” over His friend’s death, and therefore we know that He suffers with us. Second, He allowed Lazarus to die in order to bring about a greater good.

As we approach Holy Week, let’s offer our pain to our merciful Savior, trusting in His wisdom and confident that the trial we bear will produce great fruit!

For help in finding joy in the midst of trial, go to www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

“I can see!”

23 Mar

This weekend’s readings are about seeing clearly. While few people experience physical healing like the blind man in the Gospel, many of us can recall times when God has allowed us to see a situation from a new perspective—with equally miraculous results.

If you and your spouse keep running up against the same conflict or difficulty, perhaps you are in need of a new perspective.

  • Pray specifically for God to “open your eyes” to a new way of seeing your spouse and his or her perspective.
  • Seek counsel from a couple whose marriage you respect who may have traveled through similar difficult circumstances in the past.
  • Gain new insights and skills from a marriage enrichment program such as Living in Love or Worldwide Marriage Encounter.

Other practical marriage tips can be found at www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com.

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

Are you willing to die?

16 Mar

This week, St. Paul reminds us that “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Rom. 5:8). As married people, we are called to imitate Jesus by laying down our lives for our spouses, a theme that runs through many of our most cherished love stories.

We see great nobility in one spouse taking a bullet for the other, even though it usually doesn’t come to that!

If we are literally willing to die for each other, we must also be willing to die to ourselves in little ways–while our spouse is still a sinner.  Here are some ideas:

  • Pick up those socks without comment.
  • Answer a bad attitude with lavish affirmation.
  • Do one of your spouse’s chores without getting noticed.
  • Seek understanding instead of the “last word.”
  • Listen to your spouse without trying to “fix the problem.”

Build a more joyful marriage at www.JoyfulMarriageProject.com.

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.