Archive | September, 2016

When E.F. Hutton Speaks . . .

29 Sep

Image result for husband listening attentively to jabbering wifeDo you remember the 1980’s TV commercial for E.F. Hutton? The tag line was, “When E.F. Hutton speaks, people listen.” In our daily married life, our attitude should be, “When my spouse speaks, I listen.”

Have you ever “tuned out” your spouse or said, “There he goes again,” or “She never listens to me”? While this is not uncommon, it can reveal a road block to greater intimacy in marriage and with God.

The spousal relationship between husband and wife mirrors the relationship we have with God. If we take God for granted, we will tend to take our spouse for granted. If we take our spouse for granted, we will tend to take God for granted.  This week’s Psalm gives us great advice for either scenario: “If today you hear His voice, harden not your heart.”

If you want to improve your relationship with God, start by listening more attentively to your spouse.

Devote your entire attention to the one you love. To improve listening, remember:

  • Maintain eye contact
  • Repeat back what you hear
  • Listening is different from waiting to talk
  • Turn off the phone or TV to avoid distraction

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

 

The Little Way

13 Sep

aaaDo you remember your wedding day? Your honeymoon?  We were so mindful of our spouse and each of us would have given our lives to save the other if necessary.

Fortunately, many of us will never be asked to lay down our lives for the sake of our spouse. But we are asked every day to do so in smaller ways. Jesus gives us incredible advice to keep the flames of marriage burning bright in this week’s Gospel: “The person who is trustworthy in very small matters is also trustworthy in great ones.” The pathway to a great marriage is through the small daily things.

This week, let’s prioritize the “little things”–often hidden–that make your spouse feel cherished or respected:

  • Hiding a written love note in his lunch bag
  • Getting her a cup of coffee in the morning
  • Wearing that shirt and tie she bought you for Christmas
  • Affirming his daily hard work for the family

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

 

The Prodigal Son . . . or Spouse

9 Sep

reconciliationCan you imagine the betrayal the father in the “Prodigal Son” story must have felt? The son wishes his father dead, takes his money and squanders it.  If you are married or have children, you have probably felt hints of this pain. We have all had times where we felt our spouse or children have squandered our trust and found it difficult to forgive.

In marriage and family life, part of forgiveness means giving up the right to bring the offense up later, using it to justify ourselves or holding it over our spouse’s head to get our way. The Father’s example is to run out to meet the repentant son, lavishing forgiveness and celebrating the return. In marriage and parenting, we do this by focusing on our spouse’s or child’s repentance. It costs us pride, but wins for us the joy of a restored relationship.

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.