The Hidden Pharisee in Marriage

20 Oct

vacuum“O God, I thank you that I am not like this tax collector.”

The Pharisee in this Sunday’s Gospel is so arrogant! Yet it is easy to be the same way in our own marriages. We often judge our spouse’s actions against what we would have done in the same situation, imagining that our way is right and theirs is wrong. We can say to ourselves, “If only my spouse were more like me, things would be much smoother.”

For example, “O God, I thank you that I am not like my spouse . . . who thinks a vacuum is an appropriate birthday gift . . . or who cries whenever we fight . . . or who always makes us late.”

We all have our own version of that “prayer.” For trivial matters, we can ask our spouse why he or she behaves a certain way, and in the process learn more about him or her. Even when our spouse is sinning, we can look deeply into our own hearts and say, “O God, be merciful to me, a sinner,” and then grant forgiveness.

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.

2 Responses to “The Hidden Pharisee in Marriage”

  1. AnDrew Aaron Rahn October 27, 2016 at 11:30 am #

    Is it Christ or satan working in the Pharisee. There is unity in Christ . Let us add Christ in us or look for Christ in others before you “go to court ” with the unjust. Good thought in article but typical of a “selfy” . Article needs Christ as the answer . Christ is risen but His Holy Spirit is with us in faith.

  2. AnDrew Aaron Rahn October 27, 2016 at 11:41 am #

    Christ is missing in action in article. It takes a Holy 3 to make a marriage say it . Psychology without the physiology of Christ in us in faith is a Pharisee…ing thing in this World

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: