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Unity and Difference

12 May

aaaaaOften when we get frustrated with our spouse, it is not because he or she has behaved badly, but because he or she did not react the way that we ourselves would have acted under the same circumstances.

Today‚Äôs readings are about unity. We hear of different languages understanding each other, and different parts of the body working together for good. But unity does not mean “sameness.”

The Holy Spirit did not make everyone the same, but rather aligned those differences harmoniously. This is a model for us in learning how to handle our differences in relationship. When confronted with an irritating difference, try asking yourself:

  • What positive trait or virtue is at work in my spouse right now?
  • What can I learn from this virtue?
  • If I have a complementary virtue, what is the most charitable way to use it in this situation?

The foregoing is this week’s installment of the “Marriage Minute,” produced by the Marriage and Family Life Office of the Archdiocese, which attempts to view the Sunday readings through the lens of the Sacrament of Marriage.